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Fishkeeping GURU
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I just thought I'd stop by and say hello to everyone (and explain myself a bit). I'm really sorry I dropped off the face of the planet like that...I have had a very rough couple of months. My best friend suddenly passed away, and it hit me hard. She was only 26 years old, and her wedding (to one of my other closest friends) was only a month away when it happened. She had a blood clot that formed, it went undiagnosed despite the fact that she went to the emergency room because her leg was swelling up, and it went to her heart and caused a pulmonary embolism. Her fiance and I walked into her apartment and found her within 1/2 hour of it happening, but it was too late. You just never think you're going to find yourself performing CPR on your best friend, and even worse, that it will do no good.
So that's my story. I just couldn't bring myself to go back to my normal life, including hanging out here. I am having trouble even showing an interest in my own fish at this point and I am beginning to debate getting out of the hobby altogether. I am holding off on any decisions until I am thinking more clearly though. I am hoping my love of the hobby (of anything really) will come back, but so far it hasn't. I'm just taking care of my fish the best I can for now and sometime down the line I will decide what to do about them. I may just pare down the tanks a bit to make them easier to maintain, or combine several of the freshwater tanks into one.
Anyway, sorry I left you guys hanging like that. I just wanted you to know what is going on, and that I will probably not be on regularly for a while at least. I really hope I will be back sometime, but I don't know when I will start to feel like myself again. Til then, take care everyone. Life is too short...
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| Wow, what an awful experience! I'm very sorry to hear about your friend. I can't begin to imagine what sort of impact that experience would have on my life. I hope that you are able to come to terms soon because life is indeed too short. Best wishes to you. Hope to have you and your good advice back ASAP. A friend on the forum, NP
So many species, so little money!
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Fishkeeping GURU
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Thanks for your kind words. I do have hope that things will return to something vaguely resembling normal soon.
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| As you already know, Hailey, our thoughts are with you and yours. Best, F.M.
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| Thanks for the reply about why you weren't here for a while. I hope you remember me, you helped me out quite a bit. I hope you have a good reason of whichever decision you choose to take. We'll be waiting.
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Cut Here If life gives you lemons, squeeze them into people's eyes and run away! }<(((0>
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I am really sorry for your loss. Nothing can prepare you for an experience as tough as that. I know it is difficult. But I am willing to bet your best friend wouldn't want you to give up the things you love.
When I was young my parents put us kids through an awful divorce. It felt like a tremendous loss. Maybe something like your feeling now. I was a local soccer star and loved it with all my heart. I just walked away from it due to my greif. I can never get that time back and I regret it tremendously. Not becuase I thought I would be a be star, but because I realise what a mistake I made. To abandon what I love was the decision that lead me down a grievous road.
I am trying to say - don't walk away from what you love, run toward it. It is there you will heal the fastest; among what you love and people that share it with you.
JOHN CHAMPAGNE
55gallon/4wpg t05/pressurized Co2/moderately planted 9 goldbarbs,10 olive nerite snails,3 ottos, one guppy, 4 green cories, 4 amano shrimp and 6 cardinal tetras.
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